Understanding and supporting someone’s struggle is not the same as being them. And if our “allyship” only serves to embolden casual discrimination, then it is clear we don’t understand much about anything at all. We will always be outsiders. The best we can be is conscious and conscientious outsiders.
Whenever we hear arguments about the fight against discrimination being futile, or the fight against inequality being a wild goose chase, pay attention to who is predicting this seemingly inevitable defeat. You might find that it is someone who is not affected by it.
Those with privilege don’t have to do much to be seen as heroes. Even the bare minimum of effort on their part can cause entire communities and their efforts to become invisible.